Sadly, there are some men that choose their career over having a girlfriend and in the end, they are left with nothing. 6 ways to deal with the wrong crowd.. Have a little patience and persistence; and youll be surprised how easy it is to actually get a girlfriend. There really is no set amount of time for this sort of thing. So if the men around you are stronger than you, they are shining brighter and your sweet personality will never been seen much less valued. Regardless, you are who you are in the now and if you dont love yourself, you might never get a girlfriend. if(typeof ez_ad_units!='undefined'){ez_ad_units.push([[300,250],'littleninjaparenting_com-mobile-leaderboard-1','ezslot_18',162,'0','0'])};__ez_fad_position('div-gpt-ad-littleninjaparenting_com-mobile-leaderboard-1-0'); Nonetheless, parents of sons in this situation should remain faithful to loving their son and helping him get the right support he needs for healing. One of the most common rules kids learn from parents regardless of culture and background is to not tell lies, so it comes as a shock when it seems your own mother is doing it. She is a former public school teacher of 18 years, licensed in 3 states and certified to teach elementary, secondary English, and English Language Learners. My 13 year old daughter thinks I am too protective since I want to meet the guy she wants to go to the movies with. I don't think he knows that we WERE planning to move across the country in the next 2 years! If you are a perpetual complainer that yaps on and on about how crappy your life is and how you will never get a girl ever, then you dont deserve a girlfriend. He never sees his friends anymore. Studies say the majority of guys that cant get a girlfriend just dont try enough times. Teens need to know that when they come to their parents they will be heard and not judged for their feelings or opinions. I thought he'd find someone but now he's in his late 20s and never been on a date. Thank you for reaching out. Unfortunately she loves to help others and he has been "trained"from an early age how to play the poor pitiful me card by his mom wich makes this that much harder to deal with its very close to a codependency. In other words, the reason a twentysomething son hasnt ever had a girlfriend could just simply mean he hasnt been looking for a serious relationship, not that he wont ever want or have one. Its a huge step! And frustratingly, I was relying on her help in taking care of him. He started asking me to take him to the mall so he could buy a one month anniversary gift. I interrupted them - and it was not what I thought.